Last but not least:)

Every week I have been writing about love and how to find it, keep it and embrace it. When truth of the matter is, I think I am finally going to wait and be patient for love. I used to be so stuck on the fact that I need someone to make me happy. When in reality, you can only make yourself happy. Im only 17 years old, Im going to be a senior in a month and Im single. Im not in a rush to find anyone, letting love find me.

But there is one thing, there is a boy. To be honest, I have never been so happy and into a guy before that it feels like Im dreaming. Its like hes my best friend for a reason. And to be honest I think im falling for my best friend. He has everything I want in a guy, we may argue and nto agree on a lot of things, but opposites attract my mother has always told me. I will love one day, I know I will aslong as I keep the faith and stay positive. It may be the guy Im about to date or it may not. I do know I love him but I don’t think im in love with him. I mean I could, but if it does, I know ill be one happy girl.

Be patient with love. It will eventually come your way one day. But in the meantime, just have fun. I have been single for about a year now, and im perfectly fine. It may not be easy all the time, but you don’t have to be sad and depressed because of someone. Im the kind of person who thinks everything does happen for a reason and whats meant to be will find its way. That’s what I always think of whenever im going through a rough time, I stay positive and think clearly this wasn’t meant to be then. If it is meant to be, it will find its way and just be happy. Even if it means waiting, people think being single means you’re going to be alone forever. It just means finding love isn’t your time yet, and you need to be happy in the meantime and forget about it. “For one human being to love another; that is perhaps the most difficult of all our tasks, the ultimate, the last test and proof, the work for which all other work is but preparation.” (Rainer Maria Rilke) Go on a date and see where it takes you, get to know someone. Its all about taking risks and chances in life. Even if you have been hurt before you have to let your guard down and put down the wall in order to have someone come into your life and change it for the better. To me, you live life once, so take risks and be happy. When love comes knocking on your door, answer it. Thanks J

Abortion. For it or against it?

What is so “safe and easy” about having a abortion? What is so fascinating and great to have one? Because YOU made a stupid decision about having sex and you knew the circumstances? It’s a 50/50 shot, when you have sex. You get pregnant or you don’t. You can use all the protection you want, its still a 50/50 shot. It really does get me aggravated when people say that they support abortion and it’s the best thing If you don’t want a child. If you don’t wont children of your own, atleast wait til the baby is born and give it up for adoption or figure something out, don’t kill your child that’s inside of you because you don’t want it. Its not a choice when you have a child unless you are trying for one.

“Each year, two percent of women aged 15-44 have an abortion; half have had at least one previous abortion. At least half of American women will experience an unintended pregnancy by age 45, and, at current rates, about one-third will have had an abortion.” (http://www.guttmacher.org/pubs/fb_induced_abortion.html)

In my opinion, when you have a abortion you are a muderer. You killed a innocent child because you don’t want it? Im sorry that’s not your choice. What did that child do to you that you decided to kill it? You shouldve thought about that before you decided to go have sex. You can be cautious and stay protected and have it. But when you’re going around just sleeping around, then odds are you are going to get pregnant. Even if something drastic happens, like god forbid you get raped and you get pregnant, would you still get a abortion because you didn’t want it? I know its terrible that you got raped, but don’t kill a child. Give it to a adoption agency.

Love or Lust? ♥

A lot of people get really confused being in love and the word love in general. Also a lot of people get confused between lust and love. Im not 100% sure about it eitherm but Im going to try my hardest to explain what I know and my opinion. Like Ive said before, no body knows what being in love is until you  find somebody to make you believe love is real. A lot of people think love is a feeling. Its not. It’s a physical emotion. Its sorta like magic, it just happens. Especially when you least expect it.

Back to my topic, lust and and love are totally two different things.  “Lust takes you over, you do something you want for all the wrong reasons.” Quoted Cody Mckenna. Lust is just something you want very very bad.  People who are truly in love base their relationships on respect for each other, compromising behavior and selfless attitude. They are ready to sacrifice anything for their partner. Lustful relationship brings two people close only to have fun and both of them are selfish in their demands. They don't have any respect for their partner and don't have any commitment plans in their minds.

Love is profound, deep and infinite. Lust on the other hand is a temporary longing, a shallow feeling and one-dimensional craving. Relationships based entirely on lust are often very short-lived. Physical attraction is also the basis of love, so telling them apart sometimes becomes difficult.

Interview about love :)

 Love is complicated, Love is love. No one really experiences it until they actually fall in love with someone.
I interviewed a kid from my class named Cody Mckenna about love and what he thinks about it.
1. How do you feel about love?- Love is complicated thing that I try to avoid cause as soon as you fall, you have fallen and you think about that person all the time.
2. Are you in love?- No I am not, I chose not to be in love.
3. How do you know when he is the one?- I get this feeling and I want to be around him, they will make you smile and put you in a good mood.
4. Is love just a word for you or a feeling?- In all reality its a feeling people cant help but feel. It is rare and people confuse it with lust.
5. Can you spend the rest of your life with 1 person?- Nope because I am terrified of committment.
6. When was the first time you noticed you liked people?- I started realizing I liked men at the end of 7th grade.

Not online love theories♥

People say love is just a word til someone comes around and gives it meaning. That indeed is true. My mom always told me" Don't find love, let love find you and you'll be the happiest girl on the planet. Someday someone will come and treat you the way you should be treated, like a princess." I believe her don't get me wrong but I just hate waiting around for something that can come unexpectedly. I am a very inpatient person and waiting to me is like dying.

I interviewed my mom a couple times about how my parents met. They have been best friends since they were in 10th grade. My mom was really good friends with my dads sister and she grew closer to her and him because they hung out all the time. They were best friends, they were comfortable with each other, tell each other everything and they went to each other when one of them had a problem and needed to vent. My dad had dated my moms cousin when he was in 10th grade and it didn't last at all. Then my dad kept asking my mom out and she kept on denying him because she didn't feel that way for about a year and a half. Til 11th grade prom came along and my mom had found out that my dad was taking somebody else and that made her incredibly jealous and SHE wanted to go with him, not anyone else. She went to prom that night, and he we was with his date so my mom went up to my dads best friend and told him she wanted to be here with him. My dads best friend told him, and my dad dumped his date that night and went with my mom. They hung out all the time, then 12th grade they started to date. They have been together for 30 years now, and happily married for 24 years.

They have showed me the true meaning of love, and it can last. You can make it work, you just have to work for it and not give up. If its what you want, never give up. You never know how beautiful something might turnout to be.

Top 10 Reasons To Get Married :)

Marriage to some people isn’t important. To them its like okay, it’s a ceremony that says were together forever blah blah blah. But to be honest, its not just that. Its more than that, no one understands it until you are actually going to get married and you want to be with this person for the rest of your life. Its your soul mate and partner for life, not just another person you really like. It’s a promise in front of your family and god that you promise to be together for the rest of your life, you will honor and cherish each other for as long as you both shall live. Here are the following reasons to get married, if you don’t agree feel free to not even bother looking.

No.10 Marriage makes you live longer. One of the ways that getting married improves your life is by making it last longer. Various studies have indicated that happily married men tend to outlast their single counterparts.

No.9 Marriage increases your earning power. You know that big-screen TV you've been saving for? Well, if you were married, you'd probably own it by now. Being married means sharing expenses and splitting the costs of major purchases.

No.8 Marriage gives you a platform to build your bloodline on. OK, so technically you don't need to be married to have a family, but marriage is still the standard method for starting a family. The nuclear family, despite its flaws, remains a sought-after model. That's why having kids is another argument in our top 10 reasons to get married. Being a father is a dimension of manhood that just about every guy wants to experience -- and marriage is the most stable and secure environment in which to start a family.

No.7 Marriage prevents you from dying alone. Marriage is an investment in your future. Sure, you sacrifice some of your sweet single years, but in exchange you get to make a long-term investment in one person, building a deep, abiding love that has the potential to last a lifetime.

No.6 Marriage makes you more attractive. When you find somebody, you want to impress them, and by impressing them you dress nice and make yourself look appealing.

No.7 Marriage brings financial benefits. You're not a 1 person income anymore, if your significant other has a good job they bring in the cash as well.

No.8 You're not searching anymore. When your single, you have to search around for a person. All that hardwork is done with.

No.9 You're spending your life with 1 person only. Marriage means being with someone forever, not just a couple years then you're done. Its a forever deal.

No.10 You finally get to call someone yours. Not having someone makes you upset lets face it. Everyone wants to be love and be loved we all attention.

How to fall in love♥

Falling in love. Some people claim its easy, you find someone who likes you and you like them. Simple as that. When actually it really isn’t. You must find someone who you are comfortable with and who you cant trust. There isn’t really steps in which you must follow to fall In love, but there are tips you can use to help yourself and others.

• Meet a lot of people. The first key to falling in love is finding someone to fall in love with. The person you love will most likely be your best friend or someone that you have known for a while. Try hard not to fall in "love at first sight" - it's romantic, but it isn't very smart.
• Give it time. Let's assume you've been going to parties, events, etc., and your friends have been introducing you to people they think you will be interested in. Don't rush the process. Take your time and be friendly and open to everyone you meet.
• Read" the person. Okay, you're interested. Is s/he interested? Watch for signals, body language, catching him or her looking at you, etc. Watching for subtle signs can tell you if s/he shares your interest.
• Take the plunge. Ask him or her out. Don't worry that you will be turned down - and never allow yourself to be intimidated by extreme beauty or social status. If s/he seems interested in you despite the fact that you consider yourself ordinary while you consider him or her extraordinary, remember that you are a worthy person with much to offer. It's no big wonder that s/he would find you interesting, fun, and attractive.
• Open yourself to love. This is the only way to find out for sure if the person you are falling in love with can be trusted with your most valuable resource: your heart.
• Give yourself fully, receive wholeheartedly. Allowing yourself to receive love is as important as giving it. It is so important to believe that you are loved.
• Defend the honor of your love. Never make jokes at his or her expense - many people fall in love, but then use their loved one as joke material. Don't make deprecating jokes about your love, and don't allow anyone else to make them either.

• Fall in love for the right reasons. It is important to understand that what you value in your partner as you embark in the relationship has significant implications for the outcome of the relationship. Poor values like mere physical/sexual attraction can lead to a relationship that may not endure the test of time. It is important to love the person for their innermost being and to have friendship and genuine caring as the forefront points of attraction. Couples who merge together due to financial considerations is another course of poor decisions, as the value of money in a relationship can often lead to issues in long-term stability. Fall in love for the being inside the person, and you will have the key ingredient to a successful, long-term relationship. Get intimate and romantic with the person and live. Don't be afraid to make love come alive.

http://www.wikihow.com/Fall-in-Love

Valentines Day

Valentine’s Day. Some people love this day, other people don’t. Valentine’s Day is only good when you have someone to share it with. Valentine’s Day isn’t fantastic when you’re alone sitting on your couch eating food and watching love movies all day. The reason why I picked talking about Valentine’s Day is because it’s just around the corner and my topic is love. Valentine’s Day is the “love day.” Sure everyone loves chocolates and flowers, but that feeling when someone gives you the gift is way better than they actually gift it. Especially when it comes from someone you really like or love. The feeling is amazing and special.

What makes Valentine’s Day so special? Because your significant other buys you gifts and acts sweet for one day? What I don’t understand is, why cant people sweet like that all the time and not just 1 day out of the entire year. If everyone acted like that everyday, loving and sweet. Not necessarily  buying gifts, but showing their appreciation for the person they love. It’s such a sweet and amazing feeling.

 

Informational Love

Love Love Love. To be honest, I think the topic love has the most asked questions. What is it? How do you know when you find your soulmate? Or is love even possible? I for one, do not have knowledge about love. I’ve had relationships and thought I found love once, but like people say, when you know you know. I still don’t know. Im a 17 year old girl, and to be honest has my whole life to worry about guys. Im going to use the knowledge I know about what I believe love is and relationships. . "True love is like ghosts, which everybody talks about and few have seen." - La Rochefoucauld.

Love isnt cheating or lying and abusing. Love isn’t supposed to be unhappy. Its supposed to be the most beautiful powerful emotion that makes you happy, not questioning it. I was in a relationship that included cheating, lying and indeed abusing. People build walls when they get hurt, to prevent being hurt in the future. Like me for example, I am beyond terrified about going through another heartache. I know I’m too young to know everything, but I know what its like to be hurt and screwed over by every guy I’ve talked to or dated. "Some people come into our lives, leave footprints on our hearts, and we are never the same."- Unknown. I believe that quote 100%. People do come into our lives for a reason, and some of them mean more than other people, like they are special people to leave inputs on us. Truth of the matter is, I know for a fact love isnt being unhappy, and being hurt. When you’re in love you’re supposed to be beyond happy and only want that one person to be the love of your life forever. I’ll find mine one day. "What's meant to be will always find a way."- Trisha Yearwood

Welcome Blog :)

Thanks for choosing my blog J

I want to have a blog that explains the teenage life. Love, friends, peer pressure and family. General teenage year advice and questions. My main topic though is indeed love. What is good about it, what’s bad about it and what it really means and what people think it means. I chose this topic because everyone always says “Love is a great feeling, wait til you fall in love.” Im only a 17 year old girl who clearly doesn’t know what love is, and I want to find out.

My mom always told me not to rush into anything, I have my whole life to plan out guys. But to be honest, lonely really is not a great feeling. Seeing couples everywhere, makes you a little jealous that you don’t have anyone. At school or public places. When you’re a teenager in highschool, you think you’re going to find your soul mate. You think every guy you like, you are going to magically fall in love and get married to this guy and have kids. When in reality, most chances are you are not going to. Unless you guys are lucky to find eachother so early.

Every girl wants the fairytale ending. The real question is, what is love? Is it a feeling or just a emotion? How do you really know you’re in love? People say you know when it happens. How do you know? So many questions but the answer everyone always gives is “You will know when it happens.” I am indeed still waiting for that magical moment. I guess what Im trying to say is, parents are so against teenage love to be honest. They worry more about school and education, then your children being happy. Isnt that what every parent wants from their child, to be happy? I say, if you are happy with someone then stick with them. Not a lot of people could make you happy, but one can. Parents need to realize we have feelings too, and we could possibly find our loves in highschool or college.